Self Pleasuring

by Nayoko

Key to being able to offer pleasure and satisfaction to your lover is coming to your place of loving contentment with one's own body. You must understand and feel comfortable with your yourself and that it is ok to feel pleasure. Key to this is self exploration through masturbation.

In the west we have a culture that is largely influenced by the religiously stilted and sexually paranoid Puritans of several hundred years ago. One of the unfortunate effects of this influence is the belief that pleasure and the body in general are inherently evil or bad. Pleasure is therefore bad, sex is for procreation and of course self pleasuring is wrong.

This of course is absurd.

In the east it is something of a family ritual and expectation for the older women  in the family to literally teach and even show the young girls about pleasure. The female grows up with a more sure understanding of the role of pleasure and without much of the inhibitions of western females.

Masturbation is pleasuring oneself by touching caressing or stoking one's own sexual genitalia. We think of this as primarily an adolescent and adult activity, but children as well have been found to enjoy their own touch. This is usually an accidental discovery however.

There is of course absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal about self pleasuring. It is a normal part of maturation. Nearly all adolescents by the age of 14 or 15 have experiences these pleasures.

Boys seem to find this activity more readily, as their penis is just out there. It takes a little more interest and exploration for the adolescent female to find her center of pleasure, her clitoris.

It is a very harmless and normal activity. Go ahead make yourself feel good.

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