The Submissvie's Toybag

Below is an example of a short-term D/s contract.

Agreement of Service

I, ________________________, (submissive), with a free, sane mind and an open heart; do request of ________________________, (my Dominant), that he accept the submission of my will unto his and to take me into his care and guidance, that we may grow together in love, trust and mutual respect. This ______ month contract shall begin on ___________________ and end on ____________________at such time that it may be renegotiated and renewable.

By acceptance of this transfer of submission, my Dominant assumes and agrees to the following:

Accepts the duties of fulfilling my sexual, emotional, and intellectual needs.
Ensures the responsibilities of my safety, well-being, training and discipline using the activity checklist as a guide to the boundaries and limitations of my submission.
Shall acquire knowledge of individual Gorean slave positions and enforce such upon his submissive on a daily basis.
Agrees to be open and honest, disclosing all information pertinent to the growth and development of our relationship.

In return, the submissive agrees:

To obey his commands to the best of my ability.
To maintain honest and open communication.
To report daily by either use of telephone or email.
To report any health issues that arise with myself.
To reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation, retribution or embarrassment.
To inform him of my desired wants and perceived needs.
To practice any skills set forth for me to learn.
To be available to him (mind & body) to his pleasures, desires, and needs.

This contract serves as a platform of basic principles of conduct. By using the parameters of the BDSM Activity Checklist, at no time will the Hard Limits (Never) be exceeded. Furthermore, the Soft Limits (No Desire) shall only be tested or pushed upon agreement by the submissive. The Dominant will accept the safe words of: Yellow as to mean ask submissive what is needed, assess the situation and to change or alter play accordingly; and Red to mean stop play immediately and to secure the submissive of any harm.

Punishment or behavior modifications, if deemed required by the Dominant,

will be administered as: lectures, interrogations, quiet time or corner time, or

writing/research assignments. It will not include the use or methods of

corporal punishment nor ever leave permanent marks.

My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person, and will in no way diminish my own responsibilities towards making utmost use of my full potential. In recognition of my family and professional obligations, nothing will be required of me that will interfere with the performance of my duties therein. At no time will i, as the submissive, surrender any control of my finances to my Dominant.

Both Dominant and submissive agree that this relationship is non-exclusive to

other play partners, but full disclosure is required of such play at the most

convenient time possible. Inclusion of other partners shall be done in such a way

as to always promote safe sex by the use of condoms. At this time, consent of

either party is not required, but encouraged.

Should either of us find that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, find breach of contract by the other, or for any other reason wish to cancel, either may do so by verbal notification to the other, in keeping with the consensual nature of this agreement. We both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of our relationship as friends. Upon cancellation, by mutual honor and integrity, each of us agrees to offer to the other his or her reasons and to assess our new needs and situation openly and respectfully.

This contract is in no way legally binding, nor shall it hold either party

accountable for any legal action &/or repercussion. It shall serve as a basis

for an extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and

consensual Domination and submission with the intention of furthering

self-awareness, growth and exploration, promoting health and happiness,

and improving both our lives.

Signatures:

I offer my consent of submission to under the terms stated above on this the

________ day of _______________in the year _________.

_________________________

Signature of Submissive

I agree to accept the submission by under the terms stated above on this the

________ the day of _____________in the year _________ .

_________________________

Signature of Dominant

*This contract form based on, revised and adapted from "Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns", Chapter 4.

Addendum: BDSM Activity Checklist

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