| FAKIRs by Master Tatu June 2001
According to the dictionary the word Fakir is a (noun) from the Arabic faqir,
literally, poor man] First appeared 1609 which means: b : an itinerant Hindu ascetic or wonder-worker 2 : IMPOSTOR; especially : SWINDLER With the advent of the internet a whole array of fakirs have appeared on the scene. People can hide behind a keyboard and invent all kinds of name and personages. These fakiers claim to be all kinds of experienced persons in the lifestyle. They try to pass themselves off to be something other than they truly are. There seems to be this need to some insecure souls to be somebody, and they see the internet lifestyle community as an easy way to become that somebody overnight. In 1999 ago a woman contacted me and asked me help her find her way into the public D/s arena. She told me that she had had a realtime Master, but it was on the sly and he was married, so her "experience was all of 6 months in the chatrooms of AOL". At the time I led a support group called OTC - Off The Cuff. I invited her to come and learn and meet others. Today, 2 years later she passes herself off as being a "submissive for 20 years". Of course no one buys it, and no one buys her for being anything but real. A year ago she hooked up with a man who was brand new to the lifestyle. Initially he came out as a submissive and attended submissive support groups, but when they started dating, he became a Dominant and suddenly he has 20 years experience, and knows everything about everything from Japanse Rope to Fireplay to Wax. Their profiles talk about how they are guest presenters for D/s convention workshops all around the country. Recently they actually managed to get themselves on as presenters in a convention. Pretty scarey. I am not criticizing the inexperienced. I'll be the first to admit that I need to learn alot and am constantly learning. It is just a real shame that some people have so little self-esteem that they cannot be honest with themselves or the community. As a result no one will ever take them seriously, except new people who are eager and easily milsed. Seekers are looking for someone to guide them. If the experienced do not step up and help and mentor them, then these fakirs will be there to fill the void. That brings up a very potentially dangerous situation. What if these fakirs have a not so good motive for presenting themselves as all wise and knowing? Just this week a good friend of mine discovered that his AOL screen name was being cloned by a fakir. The fakir had substituted a capital i for what was an L in his screen name. The names looked identical. What was discovered, by accident was that this man was using his good name and reputation, had gathered personal information about him and a submissive he protected and used it to make a date with an unsuspecting female in another state. The scam fell apart just in time. AOL responded and canned the fakir's account. Yet one wonders what if this man was a predator or a serial killer. Reputations are fragile things. In just an instant this fellow realized that he could have been used by someone to inflict harm, and his reputation would have gone down the tubes. In another case in Florida, a couple arrived on the scene in 1997. I remember because I welcomed them as newbies/ rookies to our local support and educational group. At the time he was the bottom and she was the Top. They began throwing private house parties and got themselves pretty well known in the area. The couple split up for about a year and they resurfaced in 1999, only this time, he was the all knowing experienced "mentor dom" and she was his collared slave. It started as he would put little things in his profile like he was 50 when he really was 60. It grew and grew until he was bragging to everyone that he had been in this stuff for 30 years. (Update: As of the summer of 2002, he now posts on his webpage he is a 40 year lifestyler) She beats his drum tauting his experience and offering help to "newbies". This tale got really sad, as they with deliberate intent, hurt a submissive and her children, by outting her to her estranged husband, causing a hugh, long and expensive custody battle. It was in all that mess that it was revealed that these were dangerous 30 year career felons, and were fakirs all their lives, conning, lying, stealing and cheating people. They had between them some 50 felony arrests over 30 years in two states, and some 15 years in Floirda State prisons. They have pretty much ruined themselves of having any part in the local real D/s community, so they sit on egroups and in chatrooms luring unknowing newbies to their home. Most recently they have planted themselves in a local pro dommes dungeon conning her as well. True submissives are very fragile people and have a need for guidance and to give their trust to someone. The fakir presents himself with all the traits they need to find happiness and meaning. So they are easy prey. These fakirs or con artists are indeed masters at what they do. They are pros at becoming what the submissive or anyone wants and needs from them. Some of these fakirs are true sociopaths like our 30 year felons in the example above. All they have ever know is how to work people. Some can even end up perpetrating non-consensual pain, physical abuse, and harass the hell out of anyone who doesn't buy thier game. People who are into this kinky lifestyle have a lot at risk in terms of family and careers. It is at those points that they gain information to get what they want from you, as in the case of our mother and children in the example above. They did not get what they wanted from her, so they took photos they had taken of her and sent them to her ex-husband. Very sick people. Continued: See Predators
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